On your own hands

It's sad to see how some people don't take hold of their own life, and keep blaming others for whatever happens.

They don't seem to be capable of being responsible for their what they do, and simple have to place the blame outside themselves. Whatever happens to them cannot be their fault, there are no consequences to their actions.

Whatever happens, it the result of someone else's action, or it was their destiny. In their mind it's inconceivable that what's happening to them, is the end result of all their choices and actions up to that point. The only one they can take responsibility for what's going on in their life, are themselves.

Of course is a lot easier to put the place the blame on someone, or something, else. But, that doesn't make it so. At the end, all of our choices and actions have consequences we'll have to face, whether we like it or not.

The good or bad things that happen to us, are the direct result of what we have done so far. Of course, there are some things that are outside our power, and we have no influence on. But, at the end most of what we face on our daily life is a direct consequence of our own actions.

We can choose if we do what we need to reach our happiness, or let others do it for us. Yet, is our choice.

So, if you let others do the things you ought to be doing and they do it wrong, it's still your fault because you gave them the power to do so. If you don't want that, then do those things yourself.

Live as others say...

What bothers me about how some people think, is that many seem to think that everything is other people responsibility. And when they face the consequences of what they do, or didn't, they are quick to blame others.

It's sad to see how many really seem to believe that someone else should care for them, and solve all their needs. They take no blame for their own actions, and refuse to face the consequences that come from them. There is always an excuse for whatever happened.

The blame lies on the government, alcohol, or society. Never think of that the no one else can make them do anything, the choice to do any action is theirs alone.

By living like this, they are effectively letting other people control how they live. Which is rather annoying, since they want all the rights that the ones who actually take the responsibility of their own life, but want no of the obligations.

At the end, those individuals add nothing of value to society. Or at least no innovation, because they live only to imitate or do whatever they are told to do. They live to do what other people do, never to ask themselves why, or try to make things better.

Most of their actions are not motivated in what they want, or where they want to go. They do things because others do them, or because they are expected to do or say them.

They live the life that people expect from them, not the one they want. But, many not even question if that is the life they want, they just transit. For me, that's hardly a life worth living.

At the end, most people don't even rise their eyes to the sky and marvel. Most are contempt just living the life set before them by others.

Followers

It can be frustrating to try to keep a conversation with someone that is not capable to be critical on what is being told.

That kind of persons don't seem to be able to process information on their own, in order to get their own conclusions. It seems that they need someone to tell them what to believe, or think about whatever.

If they don't have someone to guide them on what to think, they are at a loss on what to make out of the world around them. And for the most part, they believe anyone who appears to be right, and looks like he knows. For most of the time, those persons don't seem able to look beyond the surface and into the content of whatever information is given to them.

As a matter of fact, that is what worries me the most about these people. That they are easily made to go in any direction anyone with enough influence over them wants to.

I just find it both, frustrating and scary.

Looks

Last Sunday I heard part of the discourse given by AMLO at down town Cuernavaca, and it worries me how many people are willing to believe just about anything.

And what worries me the most, is that most people don't seem to really think what is being told to them. It seems that they accept as a fact whatever is told to them by anyone who has any level of authority or sounds like whatever they want to hear.

Other thing that bugs me, is that many people don't seem to question the bare minimum to try to understand what is being said about any given subject. Most of the time, if it looks good they stay at that level. It seems that appearances are far more important than the content. It seems that no matter how many times they see how good looking thing crumble to the ground because they had no support, they are still willing to keep going to good looking things.

If we want to build long lasting to our problems, we need to look beyond of what it looks good. We need to find the best solutions that actually work, and sometimes it means that we have to think beyond of what we have now.

Labels

What happens in our lives is not really good or bad, are just events that happen because of what we choose to do or not.

At the end, things are not good or bad in themselves. Those are just labels we apply to them depending on how we perceive them. And that perception is affected on many things, like what is our mood or what were our expectations.

Yes, things happen for a reason. But the reasons why those things happen, are the consequences of our actions before the event. Nothing happens just because, or as an isolated event.

What affects the outcome of any event, can range from really simple reasons to various degrees of complexity. All depends on how simple, or complex, the event leading to anything is. The amount of people participating, what or when anything is said or done. Most of the time is really hard to measure how complex any given situation is, until later on. And even if you are inside, or outside, can have an effect on how easily one can judge what's going on.

Even your world view has a great weight on how you are going to label any given situation. What for a person can be the best possible outcome, for another can be the worst possible one. Sometimes, the time when it happens can have a great effect on how the same individual judges the outcome.

At the end of the day, events and things are just that. They are not good, bad, great, sad, or any other label that could be applied. Labels are just the glass through which we view them.

Modern wold

The amount of information at our fingertips has grown so much, that now the hardest part is not getting it. Now, the problem is actually filter good from bad information.

Even finding relevant information can be a problem, since the shear volume it can be overwhelming.

To be able to actually find the information you need, or want, requires time to actually look and process a lot of data. One must read, or watch, articles from several sources to be able to compare and verify that the information you are getting is actually useful, and what you are looking it for.

One must have the criteria to be able to discern what information is relevant, and useful, for what are you going to use it. And it's important to get it from as many different sources as possible. This is actually very helpful to create your own opinions and try to get a bigger picture of what is going on.

No one has the whole truth, so getting a sense of why and what is going from several places helps to get a better understanding of our world.

If you get a better understanding of what is going on around you, it'll help you make better decisions. And also, it'll make you a valuable asset for those around you.

Knowledge is power, and is quickly becoming a valuable commodity in our world. So, find an area that interest you, and where you are good at, and acquire as much useful information as you can.

Keeping in touch

I've been paying more attention on what tools I mostly use to communicate with my friends and family.

And I mainly been using Twitter, Facebook, MSN, and SMS to keep in touch with them. Even when I'm on the move, I use this tools on my smart phone to see what my contacts are up to.

It seems that it's much more practical to keep up with how is everyone is doing though this tools. Basically I only place phone calls when it's necessary, or is Twitter or Facebook if the idea is to reach as much people as possible. If I only want to reach one person in particular, I use a SMS or an e-mail.

In a sense, I feel more comfortable communicating through what I'm up to and how I feel this way. In a sense, I feel that interacting with my love ones this way is satisfactory. Specially when meeting in person is not always possible, so this is the next best thing.

Standards

I find it to be sad the way we expect women and men to behave. For most of it, we hold women and men by different standards.

What I find most sad is that, in most cases those standards shouldn't be different at all. For me the worst part, is when smart persons know that they shouldn't be held by these and yet they act by them.

How can we expect to live in a society in which women and men live in equality, if we don't apply the same rules to both sexes.

Many times I feel that we are making progress, only to feel disappointed when a woman, sometimes a man, have to make a choice not based on what she wants or need, but on her gender.

In most cases, this choices are forced by men to women. But it's far worse when this choice is forced by other women. It seems that women react more violently to the treat by other women, then men react to the same treat.

At times, it seems that women are women's own worse enemy.

Change day

Today is the day I change from mobile service carrier, and it's a day I've been looking forward for some time now.

For a while now I haven't been felt comfortable with my current carrier, and have been meaning to change as soon as the contract expired. And another thing that I get from this change, is that I get to completely leave the past behind me.

Thus, I hope that this will help me to move ahead with my life a lot easier.

I already selected my new carrier, so now all is a matter of making the contract cancellation and buying the chip with my new number.

I know that it will be for the best.

Disappointment

I've been feeling really sad and angry about how things ended between my ex girlfriend and me.

What I bugs me the most, is the fact that even though she said that she wanted to talk and finish things in good terms it ended not being able to look me at the eye and talk to me.

Even though she says she trusts me, I find it hard to believe that she does. She avoids meeting in person, and told me that she it scares her that I keep insisting to her about meeting in person. I can't help to think that she is hiding things.

I now that I should stop looking after her, but it also bugs me not being able to resolve things with her face to face. It might sound odd, but I need the answers to be better able to move on.

But I guess that I simply wont get them.

Feelings

I'm quite angry at how sometimes it's to easy for women to shield themselves behind the idea that they are supposed to know better about feelings.

I have come to really dislike it when a girls says to a man that she doesn't want to meet and talk in person because she doesn't want to hurt his feelings, saying that she knows better. That's a big fat lie, she doesn't want to meet in order to protect herself and her feelings. What the man feels, or wants for that matter, is totally irrelevant for her.

But, the man must understand and be thankful that she is having his feelings at heart when she says so.

And to make things worse, if the man says this he is labelled as jerk, that just doesn't want to face her or his own feelings. That somehow, he just used her for his own wicked ends.

It seems that every time I question this, the girls seem more eager to avoid or simply dismiss this. It seems that they are somehow exempt from having to face any emotional consequences, even though she was the one who wanted to talk about it in the first place.

Why don't they just act as they want us men to act, and face us even when it hurts.